it will always be the case. I don't think we'd ever be able to get rid of the double standard..especially against women. i'm writing this blog after some "joke" that my dad made about my weight.

last night we were at one of their friends' place havin dinner. and all of a sudden my dad was like don't eat too much..u'll get fat and ugly and no guy will ever want to marry you. imagine how i felt when he said that! I was fuming!!! he said it was only a joke..but i thought that to be an insult..especially saying it infront of other ppl.

what i don't get is..why is it that we, women have to look good to a man..but a man does not have to bother. It's OK for a man to want a pretty, thinner woman. and it's present everywhere..especially in the media..you see prettier, thinner women in movies, music, commercials,etc. and if the rest of the women in society don't measure up to that picture, we aren't worth it. we are just plain ugly. today, women are doing everything possible to look young, beautiful and thin. All these reality shows on botox, facelifts,etc..it makes me sick!! but unfortunately, that's the reality of society. humans are very materialistic...we yearn for the "perfect" life...wutever that maybe..it's sad really.

so earlier on I wrote on how many of my cousins n friends were getting engaged or married. well last weekend I attended my cousin's wedding here in Canada. It would be the first family wedding that i've attended since i was 6. the last one being my uncle's wedding in sri lanka, and i was the flower girl :p

ne ways, the wedding was beautiful. everyone looked amazing..even the visitors! :) everyone was havin fun...but i'm assumin it was a trying time for the bridal party..wut w/ all the ceremony n the picture taking. the photographers took tons! the food was good(indian food) and the dj wasn't too bad. played a variety of songs..so kept everyone happy.

now, since i've never been to a wedding in a long time, i did not know wut would go on during the celebrations..but that nite i did..i found out about the various rituals that the couple go thru(the whole beetle throwing to ward off evil eyes n recitations,etc). however i also noticed something i didn't like..the older women tryin to figure out which girl was next in line! :p we all figured that one out..:p but then the ladies started counting how many girls were there n started estimating how many yrs it would take n how many weddings there would be..i laughed at that..but when my aunt started talkin abt me n my sis..*gah*..it started freakin me out.

this yr will be a yr of weddings. most of my cousins have started thinking of walkin down the aisle..takin that big step. so naturally, everyone assumes that i will be next. that always frightens me n angers me. just coz all my cousins r gettin married doesn't mean i hv to line up as well! just today, when my sis mentioned that another cousin of ours was getting engaged this weekend(congrats Hazari!), the first thing our mom said was..it's time for u as well! i'm not saying i don't want to get married..it's just that i don't think it's MY time yet. there's a time and place for everything..and i don't believe it's the right time..PLUS..i don't even hv a guy!! :D hehe..InshAllah, everything will fall into place with TIME.

and to my cousins who are married or will get married soon...congratulations and all the best!

this subject was brought up in one of my seminars and a few ppl got into a debate about this. we had this hypothetical situation where there was a job...2 ppl applied for it. one was a minority with no education or previous work and the other was a caucasian with education n a good work history. if the organization was being pushed to have a more multicultural workforce..would it be ethical to hire the minority just coz of the fact that they want a more diverse workplace?because i'm a minority in Canada, i can understand how we(the minority) need jobs to start off especially if we have just migrated here. we need the skills to get us going. but at the same time, as someone who's educated, i feel that it would not be fair to the caucasian because he has the necessarily credentials. he could help out the organization and would not need much guidance with the job that he's been given. it's a tough choice and i don't know what i would do if i were in that position.

there are other ethical dilemmas that occur on a daily basis. especially the terry shiavo case..where the husband wanted to take her off life support because he (as well as some doctors) said that she was brain dead and it would be best to take her off life support. however, Terry's family didn't think so. I can't imagine having to decide whether a person should get to live or die. Should we even be allowed to decide someone else's fate? It freaks me out to think that humans can decide who ought to live or die. (ie. captial punishment as well). I am a firm believer that it is only upto God Almighty to decide our fates.

i could keep writing on and on about different ethical problems that have been going on..but then i'd just be boring u :) ne ways, these r just my thoughts for the moment.

well it's wedding season! :) i just found out that one of my cuzins in SL is gettin married in 2 weeks..as is another here in Canada. so just thought of dedicatin a lil blog to all of my cuzins who r getting engaged or married this yr. CONGRATS to all of u who r engaged/married!!!

it's probably gonna b one of THE most stressful times in ur life. but take it in stride. don't let it get to ya..coz the best is yet to come. :D ne hoo, hope all goes well for each n everyone of y'all. hv fun n save me some cake damnit!